My experience to change others’ lives
Events that influenced my personal growth
To write about events that have made a noticeable impact on my life it is not so easy, because some of these experiences were very painful and those changed a lot in my life. For sure, from all of them and in general from all of my life experiences I learnt and gained something. All of these made me a different person or maybe just into the person I am now.
Usually parents always try to do their best to make our childhoods perfect, to teach us about what is good and what is bad or just lead us and they are nearby us when we need advice. I was a lucky one who had a full family and great examples around me of what are love, respect, tolerance, good values and philanthropy. Our parents taught us to take responsibility for our actions and that everything has consequences. We learnt to use our liberty, but respect others, to be active politically and socially. Probably that background influenced my future actions and the way that events affected me, that it changed my perspective of seeing life and my reactions after.
I can’t say that some international experiences or development work I did is the main focus of the way that my experiences made an impact in my life. That would not be truth. I believe that some previous experiences affected a lot my understanding and actions. To begin with I had a quite easy and not special childhood, then when I started to do team sports it changed my understanding of reaching goals in a team. I realized that it doesn’t matter who is in the team if you all have the same goal you will find a way how to reach it, even if you don’t like each other’s personalities, because you have something that unites you – the same aim. It helped me a lot in my future at university, in all of my jobs and of course in the program, service period.
When I started teaching it gave me the understanding that the power of words and actions can make influence, but it needs to be connected with patience and belief. Sometimes to reach the pupils it took quite a long time, but after I did they gave me so much. They trusted me, they were open to ask, to discuss, to share their dreams, they were open to encouragement, they respected me the same way I did respect them and it was not important the age.
I learnt to slow down and not rush things, and be even more open to new ideas.
Of course it is important to mention my experience in Malawi as a Development Instructor. Every smile made me smile back and see how much joy it gave to local kids. Small special moments with people who didn’t understand what I am saying, but their eyes told more than words. The food delivery to pre-schools the first time gave so much kindness to us. Teachers appreciate it a lot and the kids could go to school. That motivated me a lot to make more projects.
The moment of meeting my students’ families and the goodness they shared with me. Making small businesses and explaining many times the same things to students and some locals It took so much energy, but that was necessary in order to help them understand.
The singing and lyric writing with students gave me a better understanding of how they feel more confident to express themselves through singing and I could do it too, though I even didn’t know I could. Spending time with some families in communities and doing daily tasks together helped me understand the daily needs of the rural area Malawians. Living conditions in Malawi showed me how little I need in my daily routine. The possibility of touching the life of poverty taught me to appreciate everyone and everything I do have, family, friends, possibilities, knowledge.
Probably it made me a better person too.
In conclusion I would say that we have just one life and it is not okay just to exist, we need to live it with all the passion we have, with all our failures and successes, to take everything that life gives us. All of the feelings, emotions, situations, and to be self-aware of how much we can do, how powerful we can be. We are not like islands so we need to respect everything, not just humans, but animals, nature… And learn all the life. If we stop learning and experiencing then we stop living. If I try to think of ways in which you could use my experience to change others’ lives then actually in a way I don’t really believe that someone can make changes in others’ lives.
I believe that people change their lives, but we could make an impact or in some way to encourage each other or even people we don’t know. How to do that?
By being honest and sharing our experiences, having chats and discussions, by sharing different opinions and giving awareness,
By Rima Proscevičiūtė, Lithuania